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The desire to know what someone else is doing in the bedroom is seemingly insatiable. This voyeuristic urge is never more palpable than when you are newly single and fielding suggestions from friends about who you might date.
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This unyielding belief erases the complexity of sexuality and conflates biology with gender. This is reflected in the limited nature of the gains that have been made for trans people. The rights and freedoms of trans people are largely only guaranteed as long as we fall within a socially accepted margin of error on the gender binary.
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And this will not be because I meet women in McAllen TX a trans man. It will be because of the strange and unknowable alchemy that exists between us.
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